A person who habitually expresses negative or pessimistic views: Despite a general feeling that things were going well, a few naysayers tried to cast gloom.

We all have those people in our lives the naysayers. They have more power than you think. They have a way of getting to your brain and haunt you while you are not even infront of them. They are everywhere, I mean everywhere. You have them at work, your family, place of worship, clothing store, taxi, on the street, the biggest of them all you will find them on social networks.. We are living our lives constantly avoiding them.

You can not do it!!

It is too hard for you!!

This isnt for you!!

You will fail and embarrass yourself!!



These people might teach you indirectly how to fear about a project you are about to start, by telling you a story, the other one might let you believe that you could never marry the person you love because he/she is a snob (sounds familiar already?) while a third person might teach you indirectly how to fear taking risks.These people never talk about these beliefs directly but instead they tell true stories that prove these beliefs true and that’s why you always believe them.Sadly lots of the impossible things in our lives are determined by friends, coworkers and family instead of our life experiences!!

One thing that you need to remember, some of them are dealing with their own insecurities and it has nothing to do with you. They sometimes wear a mask, afraid to deal with their own issues and take it out on you. This is one of the main reasons that you need to deal with naysayers carefully. The word NGEKE is very powerful and it can cut like a sharp sword, slice your dreams into pieces.


If you believed that something is possible you will find yourself eager to achieve it.You will find yourself learning, taking steps and walking towards it until you reach it.

Warn them and Avoid them:Some people can be very depressing. They keep putting everyone down without noticing that they are doing so. You must let those negative people become aware of their actions. Warn them about the dangers and if they refused to stop then reduce the time you spend with them because whether you want or not you will be negatively affected by them

Challenge their arguments: Don’t accept anything you hear especially if it was negative, instead, challenge their arguments and ask them for solid proofs and when they tell you one of their stories tell them that one story can never be the foundation of a solid belief and that you need more evidence.

Everyone talks about his own beliefs then claim that this is how the world works: Most people will try to protect their egos by blaming others for their faults. If a girl rejected a guy he might say that she is a snob instead of saying that he did something wrong. According to his skills and qualities that’s the best that he can but who said that both of you are similar? We are all different and if someone failed to do something then this doesn’t mean that you can’t do itHow negative people affect you .

At the end of the day impilo eyakho Ntokazi you need to be able to stand your grounds, know exactly ukuthi ufunani. If you are not careful some people around you can destroy you. Phuma, qhela from people who are always negative, you will never get a trophy for associating yourself with people who bring you down or others down. Find yourself and love yourself enough to remove the naysayers.




What is self-love? beautiful shoes? Killer Shoes? Beautiful expensive bag? But this isn’t at all self love those are rewards or gifts that you spoil yourself with. Self-love for me is broader and deeper. It’s a journey of finding your inner self. Thousand of people can tell thousand stories about you but if you don’t have self -love, all these thousand stories could just be stories about you and not you.

Self-Love: I am not beautiful like you but I am beautiful like ME!

Self-Love: I rather be unpopular than to be popular with fake people.

Self-Love: I know who I am and I will not let anyone tell me who I should be.

Self-Love: I own my own happiness not you.

It is merely regards for one’s own well-being and happiness. This is a new journey I am starting to discover and fall in love with myself. I want you to be part of this journey. Walk with me, cry with me, laugh with me, discover with me, grow with me, pray with me, teach with me, learn with me, fall with me, rise with me and mostly love yourself with me.

Self-love isn’t about dressing all up and following the latest fashion trends. You can be as glamorous as a Christmas tree but if you don’t love yourself it is all a waste. It’s about finding that inner self and loving it. Self-love is about an expression of beauty and joy. Its about the right, the power and the ability to create a very loving world for yourself and others. The ability to love yourself with all your imperfections. The ability to forgive yourself. The ability to accept the things that you can not change and learn from all your downfalls. The ability to pull yourself up. It’s all about being comfortable in your own skin. The ability to not give people permission destroy you. The ability to see good in every situation, to be attracted by positive people and never give up.

This is a journey I am starting where I want to be a better mother, daughter, sister, friend, student, business woman and a child of God. To erase all the negativity around me and to create an atmosphere where I can live with all my imperfections. An atmosphere which isn’t toxic for my friends and family. To create a world where my children can find joy, peace and happiness. I want to be a woman who one day another woman can say ” because of you I didn’t give up”. I look up to many women and because of them I keep trying each and everyday to be a better me.